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S1:E10 | From Terrified to Trusting: Ericka
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S1:E10 | From Terrified to Trusting: Ericka

Purity culture’s damaging messages strike again as Ericka shares about growing up being taught that it was a wife's obligation to provide sex for her husband and that men are always lusting. This left a lasting negative impact on Ericka's view of sex, and led to extreme feelings of fear and anxiety around relationships.

To remedy this “problem”, Ericka turned to alcohol to cope in her relationships and began to attach her self-worth to her attractiveness to others. It wasn't until she gave up drinking and learned a whole new way of looking at sex that she began to better understand her own desires and needs.

Ericka shares her experiences in a relatable and honest way, providing valuable insights for anyone who has also a) felt like an ice block during sexual experiences or b) isn’t completely obsessed with penises.

Connect with Ericka (and check out her new book!) at www.erickaandersen.com / IG: @ericka_andersen

Resources Mentioned

- Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
- The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Gregoire
- Wanting it More with Janna Denton-Howes

Content Warning: This episode includes sexual content and references the Christian church.

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The Not Tonight Project
The Not Tonight Podcast
The Not Tonight Podcast, hosted by Rachel Walker and Caitlin Nochajski, is a space for brave women to boldly share their stories of sexual transformation in marriage and long-term relationships.
Even if your partner is your best friend, do you sometimes feel stuck in your sex life? In this podcast, we hear from others about the raw, honest truth of long-term sexual relationships -why it's so common to feel disconnected, and what it take to build a sex life you love.
May these deeply authentic stories encourage and reassure you, because spoiler alert: when we tell the truth, we have better sex.