Wife and mother to two young boys, Cait reflects how her youthful curiosity of romance and butterflies affected her perception of sex. Growing up, she spent a lot of time longing for the magical feelings she saw on TV shows and movies, thus influencing her deep desire for a romantic relationship.
As her relationship with her husband grew and changed over time, she watched the butterflies fade and they sunk into the predictable rut of married sex - doing it more out of obligation than from a motivation of desire. She deeply longed to get those feelings back, but felt stuck.
Cait shares how her perception of sex and intimacy changed over time, and how she discovered that what she needed more than any magical feeling was to give herself permission to show up in the sexual experience as none other than her truest self.
Resources Mentioned
The Mind Rebel Academy Coaching School
Wanting it More with Janna Denton-Howes
Content Warning: This episode includes sexual content.
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S1:E11 | From Performance to Permission: Cait